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Ep7: 艺术家的务实人生

Heads up: this episode is an interview in Mandarin with my friend, Merlin. He graduated from Berklee College of Music and now works in Shanghai as music director for a gaming company.

这期节目请到了,我初中时候的好朋友Merlin。他高中就去了美国,大学进入了伯克利音乐学院,学music productioin。现在在上海的一个游戏公司,做music director。这次的促膝长谈,让我意外地发现:他作为一个,搞艺术的,有非常务实和理性的一面,对自己的要求也很高。Merlin也分享了很多实用的方法:如何调整自己的心态,如何对自己有清晰的认知,如何探索自我等等。

Show Notes:

1:30 为什么选择做音乐类型的工作?

3:50 进入伯克利音乐学院之后,群英荟萃,怎么调整自己的心态?

4:25 毕业之后的就业过程是怎么样的?从自己做到广告公司在进入游戏,从乙方到甲方的考虑?

9:43 声音在游戏里起到什么样的作用?音乐和音效有什么不一样的作用?

13:00 自我探索的方式:要认清自己的目标,找到自己喜欢的事情,判断自己在哪里,定计划表,在可行的范围内努力。

14:08 如何定义自己可行的范围

16:35 长远的目标有什么?对技术和代码的学习

18:09 解决问题的快感,与创作的快乐不同在哪里?

18:49 怎么样才能找到自己喜欢做的事情?如何同时考虑现实?

20:24 怎么样才能对自己开始有清晰的认知?身边人的反馈多大程度上有用?

22:25 自己的努力多大程度是内卷,多大程度是自己对自己的要求?

26:26 在钱和创作中要做一个平衡,你会怎么选择?

28:28 给自己的title是什么?

Ep6: 代码灵修元体验|当我们在讨论如何探索人生

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A heads up: this episode is an interview recorded in Mandarin, a bit different from my previous episodes.

From studying in Canada, to going back to China to work in Beijing, to being a digital nomad in Southeast Asia, then coming back to Vancouver to work, my guest shared with me what methods have worked her to find her path: exploring new skills and new paths, reflecting back to childhood, and spiritual exploration.

人生探索到底会从什么时候开始,探索的意义到底又是什么?
这集的嘉宾棍老师分享了自己有趣的人生经历,从加拿大读书到硅谷工作,到回北京996,东南亚作数字游民,现在又回到了加拿大。这个过程中棍老师做了非常多的对外探索,对内反思。棍老师这个过程中收获的是什么,ta总结出来的探索方式有哪些,现在想要的是什么呢?

2:25 自我探索是一个自然的过程,会有不同的契机让你开始探索

6:41 在北京的reverse culture shock和reality check,但也有认识有趣的朋友

11:25 数字游民的缘起和体验

14:50 遇到喜欢佛学的老板,开始探索佛学灵修,《正见》

16:15 这段时间是existential crisis吗?怎么度过?

17:50 如果不能换城市换工作,还有什么自我探索的方式?将自己从日常生活中抽离出来

20:39 另一种自我探索的方式,元体验,《大師熱愛的工作》

24:40 现在探索的棍老师感兴趣的点,代码作为看世界的方式和创作工具

31:10 不断去尝试跟这件事情发生链接,有一天会click

32:03 对于灵修会持续感兴趣,需要持续的探索和修正自己走的路

33:38 如何认知人生的迷茫,棍老师对于人生的愿景,想明白自己想做什么,每天真心的快乐

35:17 棍老师的快乐包括什么?如何找自己的快乐?

37:46 棍老师对于工作的期待?帮助的性质和有影响力,思考如何与商业平衡

提到的书籍:

《正见》宗萨蒋扬钦哲仁波切

播客里提到的乐业其实是这本书,《大師熱愛的工作》川村元氣

欢迎大家收听这期节目,欢迎讨论和反馈,请订阅‘小型聚会’。

谢谢棍老师非常真实的分享!

Ep5: How to Improve Daily Communication (4 Practical Tips)

Listening on all platforms: https://pod.link/asmallgathering/episode/5c32c99520a1c3c21f74d65e543859cb

Dealing with our loved ones every day during the lockdown can pose a challenge for us. In this episode, I offer you four tips to improve your daily communication.

Tip 1: Being Curious

Tip 2: Clarifying and Validating

Tip 3: Acknowledging

Tip 4: Offering up

Ep4: Emotional Bids and how to Handle Them Well

Listening on all platforms: https://pod.link/asmallgathering/episode/6ec572d1a49a87e2255aeed892a18582

1. What is an Emotional Bid?

2. How to answer a bid when we don’t have enough time & energy?

3. How to answer a negative bid, aka conflict? Use PIES!

4. How to answer to a positive bid? Be a joy multiplier.

Ep3: How to Manage Stress, Anxiety & Uncertainty During Covid-19

Listen on all platforms: https://pod.link/asmallgathering/episode/4d581608f6e2d9a95d464de4391cc9e4

In this episode, I talked about what are stress & anxiety, why they are not inherently bad, and signs that stress & anxiety have become overboard.

Then I shared 3 tips to manage stress (check-in, implement reliefs, 3 focus blocks), 3 tips to work with anxiety (be aware of the thinking traps, how to challenge irrational thoughts, a 4-step process to deal with catastrophizing), and 1 bonus tip to face uncertainty.

Book Mentioned: The Power of Now

Course Mentioned: Positive Psychology: Resilience Skills on Coursera

Ep2: How to Cultivate Resilience & Why Resilience contributes to happiness

Listen on all platforms: https://pod.link/asmallgathering/episode/909325b1c42ff0112855699c07b6052c

This episode talks about:


How do the 8 elements of resilience relate to covid-19?
Why do some of those elements of resilience also contribute to happiness? How do we cultivate each element of resilience?


8 elements of the resilience model: biology, self-awareness, self-regulation, mental agility, optimism, self-actualization, connection, positive institution.
PERMA model of happiness: positive emotions, engagement, relationship, meaning, accomplishment.


Course: Positive Psychology: Resilience Skills on Coursera


Book: Automic Habits

Ep1: 5 Mindsets for Thriving Through Uncertainty

Listen on all platforms: https://pod.link/asmallgathering/episode/dfc6de902de46d7072211f965a390675

5 Powerful Mindsets for Thriving Through Coronavirus

1. Human beings are antifragile.

2. The optimistic mindset.

3. Other people matter.

4. Know your limits.

5. Our identities and preferences are more fluid than we think.

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