“It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life—daily and hourly. Our answer must consist, not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual.”
如同Victor Frank说的一样,我想昨日的新闻,或许是what life expected from我们这一代人collectively. Our answer must consist, not in talk and meditation, but in right action and right conduct。
然而交出答卷的时间线可能会拉得很长很长,在这漫长的岁月里,我们要如何能做到关注新闻,做力所能及的参与却不完全burn out。我们要如何确保till we meet again的时候,我们不是仅仅剩下一个空壳,内里只有愤怒和苦楚。
2. Taking a sit is taking a stand。在这个漫长的参与过程中,self care是保持内心平和的重要方式。一些我自己的self care:每天早上冥想45分钟,写三页morning page(很好的自我宣泄但又不会给任何人带来痛苦)情绪上来的话,用shaking & dancing发泄出去。需要练习的是,在危机出现的时候,及时回到自己的身体里,做grounding exercise,与朋友一起观察,我们的情绪出现在身体的何处,按时吃饭睡觉健身。
头两点的来源
National Trauma–Now What? | Jon Kabat-Zinn Specialhttps://www.happyscribe.com/public/ten-percent-happier-with-dan-harris/313-national-trauma-now-what-jon-kabat-zinn-special-edition
A Wise and Counterintuitive Way to Meditate in a Crisis | Lama Rod Owens https://www.happyscribe.com/public/ten-percent-happier-with-dan-harris/314-a-wise-and-counterintuitive-way-to-meditate-in-a-crisis-lama-rod-owens
principle 3 “Do not force others, including children, by any means whatsoever, to adopt your views, whether by authority, threat, money, propaganda, or even education. However, through compassionate dialogue, help others renounce fanaticism and narrowness”
这一点也与一个播客重叠 How to Call People In (Instead of Calling Them Out) | Loretta Ross https://www.happyscribe.com/public/ten-percent-happier-with-dan-harris/316-how-to-call-people-in-instead-of-calling-them-out-loretta-ross
principle 6 “Do not maintain anger or hatred. Learn to penetrate and transform them when they are still seeds in your consciousness. As soon as they arise, turn your attention to your breath in order to see and understand the nature of your hatred.”
这个可能是我觉得非常重要的一条吧,虽然愤怒会让我们意识到有什么是不对的。但实际去改变的时候,停留在愤怒里,还是转换到一个更mindful的状态,做出来的事情效果可能是不一样的。我相信是内在的平和是可以改变外在的,这一点上我还有想看的书:the inner work of social justice。
“Passivity in response to shock is not learned. It is the default, unlearned response to prolonged aversive events and it is mediated by the serotonergic activity of the dorsal raphe nucleus, which in turn inhibits escape. This passivity can be overcome by learning control, with the activity of the medial prefrontal cortex, which subserves the detection of control leading to the automatic inhibition of the dorsal raphe nucleus.”